What is Intimacy Exploration?

In the broadest of terms, Intimacy Exploration is a therapeutic journey where the destination depends on you. It’s a journey through your Intimate Psyche with the goals of healing, growth, or evolution of some kind at the helm. While in the process, we explore how each wall, pattern, obstacle is an opportunity for finding your most authentic and capable Intimate Self. A goal and motto of the experience is to be able to, with open arms, confidently say with eye contact to your naked and free Self, “Into Me, See.”

Structurally, the journey involves honest communication, somatic and movement exercises, sex and relationship (to other & Self) exploration and education, and take home “assignments” catered to your personal intimacy goals and desires. The exploration is a commitment you make to, and keep for, yourself. It involves stepping outside of your comfort zone, so it is not necessarily easy or fast or something that can be accomplished if you’re not self-motivated inside of the process. It involves a lot of communication and listening, often in different and new ways. It is an intimate exploration of your Self, leading to being a more free, confident, satisfied Me.

While there are common story threads and established methods and tools, each of us have unique experiences and desires that call for unique approaches. There isn’t one journey that is the exact same. Your goal may be to step out of your shell, heal from a traumatic encounter, break free from unhealthy patterns or ruts, learn a new skill or way of interacting, to become comfortable & enjoy a body that is new or changing, find your voice in bed... the possible goals are infinite. The possible tools include, but are not limited to, exploring your historical, emotional and psychological building blocks, deep breathwork, naming and claiming healthy boundaries, i love my body-work, naming and claiming pleasure goals, aligning our our actions with our soul’s desires, shadow work, crying, laughing, holding, being held, learning new things and relearning the things we meant to remember. Exploring what intimacy is to you personally and and how you want to express it relationally is the main focus of our work together.

Sensual or erotic exploration is often an assignment or something that happens, inspired by the work we do together, in your life outside of our time together. There are times when elements of purposeful somatics (body related activities) are very helpful to the work. Prior to any body movements or physical contact, these elements will be discussed at length, with acknowledgments of limitations, boundaries and consent as key elements of those discussions.

Exploring my Intimate Psyche, and learning more & more about and from my Intimate Self, is a lifelong journey that I now love to be on. It allows me to find new and deeper ways to have a truly caring and loving relationship with my Self and therefore a deeper care and love for everyone else (Reflections of Self). It has transformed my access to the pleasure in and of my own body and my ability to offer care, pleasure and intimacy to others. I really believe in this work and am living proof that it’s transformational. It is a true delight and honor to help others access such transformative healing, expansion and joy in their own lives.